Monday, 31 March 2008
Sunday, 30 March 2008
Goodnight, I'm going to bed ...... if my legs can get me up the stairs, maybe I'll sleep on the lounge !
Thursday, 27 March 2008
Wednesday, 26 March 2008
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
**** Musical Interlude****
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
There is apparently a long story about the origins of the song, it started as a Hoax email and finished as a song produced my Baz Lurhmann, you can read more about it here
Tuesday, 25 March 2008
On thursday last week I went to my first birth as a doula, it was a wonderful honour and I learnt so much.
The thing I learnt the most is that you can manipulate the system. The sad part is that you have to, you have to manipulate, cover your bases, think ahead and watch your back.
The key word is policy, the policy for one of the speedbumps in this birth is to take the baby away from its mother for 24 hours for observation in special care.
When the Dr arrived and said that he planned to take bubs away the new father said 'no, if you need to have bubs in special care fine, but her mother is going too' the Dr then tried to convince him that that wasn't policy, but when questioned why the policy existed it became apparent that it was because of ease for the staff.
Taking a baby away from its mother for 24 hours because its easier for staff. That just doesn't seem right to me. New babies, need to be with their mums, they are hardwired, as is mum, to be together to suckle and smell and be comforted after their amazing journey by each other, it would have to be pretty convincing policy to make me give up my child for 24 hours.
Thank goodness the father felt ok about standing up for their rights, after going and checking with his colluges the Dr came back and said not only would they not have to be separated but mum and bub could go back to the ward and the hourly checks could happen there.
I guess the point of this rant is to remind you no matter why you are in hospital, you have to give consent, they can't force you to do anything even if they think they can, you are their client and just because its policy doesn't mean that the reason is your well being ask why its policy and if you are still unhappy, do something about it.
Wednesday, 19 March 2008
Particularly TV, I love good TV, these days, I love good TV even more than a good movie, its quicker so I have more ability to be able to finish it in one sitting, its like a book with chapters, it give you the perfect amount for one sitting.
I should explain to you that I have always taken good TV kind of seriously, I picked the shows I wanted to watch each season, some would be like old friends coming back with more of the story, some would be new, these generally have one or two episodes to catch me and if they don't then I have more to do with my time that get involved in a crappy TV show.
Yes yes I can hear all you non pop culture people saying "but Leigh its only TV you've got better things to do than even good TV" and yes your right but shush i like TV and that's that's.
These days the TV stations are ..... well I promised I wouldn't swear but you get the drift. My problem is that there is no continuity with TV stations these days. Gone are the days where you turn the telly on at 8.30pm and the show that you expect is on, these days if the show is even on, its starts 15 minutes late because its after Big Brother or something.
I give in, I'm not going to watch free to air TV anymore, I'm not going to invest my time in TV station's that don't care if I'm watching, taking shows off mid season with no warning, moving the day and or time with no warning, and not giving me any way of finding out whats happening
Here is a test; the show Supernatural was showing on Ten at 9.30pm for the last few weeks then this week ..... gone. Go onto the Ten website and see if you can find out whats going on!!! after 15 minutes browsing, I found out that it was off and it wasn't my imagination, but do you think that I could find out anything about why it wasn't on or where we were up to or most importantly when it will coming back on, NOPE !!!
So like I said before I give in! no more network television, I will download, wait for DVD release, and take control of the TV. No more nights waiting for bloody Supernatural, and end up watching Law and Order (I don't want to watch Law and Order I'm all pumped up for some Demonic aggression)
Next thing, if I don't have to limit my TV watching to shows the networks deem worthy, it opens up the whole worlds TV productions. That means I need to have the time to research which shows are worth downloading ........ ahhhhhh who has time to do that ?
Maybe I should just unplug it, never "WE WILL NOT GO QUIETLY INTO THE NIGHT" (pop culture quote)
As I said in the title I need help, what do you watch? what did you love? and where do you find out about what to watch? how do you pick off all the millions of shows which ones you will spend your precious time watching? and yes I do mean you my beautiful Brisbanite friend "and your pretty dog to" (another pop culture quote)
And whats going on with Doctor Who, Torchwood, Supernatural, Lost, Big Love, Heros, hmmm I'm sure there were others, plus was the new Battlestar Galactica any good??
Come on people HELP !!! :)
Tuesday, 18 March 2008
Monday, 17 March 2008
The other day I was chilling out with a friend and her children at the park, it was one of those perfect sitting in the shade with a cuppa talking over all things big and small days. Jack and her little girl are very close and their friendship has developed recently into something very sweet to watch.
So while my friend and I sat and talked with our younger children asleep on our laps, the older 2 ran around the park. We were there for 3 or so hours and we barely saw the kids, once in a while one of us would stand up and make sure they were still within the park but that was about as active as our parenting got.
I didn't think much of it until I mentioned to a neighbour what a lovely day we had had. It was this quiet look she had on her face that told me that everything about my story had just pushed her buttons.
So many different ways to parent, and certainly the level of freedom I try to give my kids does seem to push peoples buttons, many times I have been bailed up by another mother telling me that they had been watching my child and didn't know where I was, mind you I knew where I was and I also knew exactly where my children were.
I feel like as a society we are disconnecting from our children, putting them in more care, breastfeeding less, going back to work sooner, control crying and generally having trouble incorporating our children into our lives and it seems that with this comes a greater need to control and monitor our kids, perhaps as we feel more distance from our children we then don't recognise their limits and boundaries as easily.
My boys are covered in bruises, bites, scratches and grazes, they have both chipped a tooth and fallen out of trees. As they grow i try and let them choose the how far and fast they move away from us and part of that process is letting them move through their world and feel comfortable exploring.
What is lovely is that the more i trust them the more they surprise and delight me by regulating their behaviour better than i could have ever expected.
Interestingly i have a friend who's mothering limits often pushes my buttons so like i said there are many ways to mother and certainly people who live in glass houses ........ shouldn't let their kids throw stones.
And while we talk about moving away from us here is a picture of the new haircut. Its getting rave reviews and i am feeling far more stable about the whole haircutting dilemma.
Saturday, 15 March 2008
Thursday, 13 March 2008
1969 - Apollo 9 returns to Earth
Wednesday, 12 March 2008
My dilemma is this, I think that both Woolworth's and Coles are trying to take over the world and I feel that by spending money in their establishments I may as well be saying I agree with their business practices.
I'm a Woolies girl so all of the following comments are directly about Woolies but I have seen and heard that Coles are doing similar things.
A few years ago Woolies brought out their Select range, it was their range of products that were better than the old black and white super cheap off cuts brand. The Select brand was meant to be able to stand next to other brands and offer a cheaper price for a good product
Then one day I went into Woolies with the Byron Bay Chili Sauce on my list and there was none to be found, not to mention, that there was no spot where the sauce should be, but there was a smattering of new select brand sauces. I went up to the customer service counter and was told that they were no longer stocking the Byron Bay Chili Sauce range.
I thought nothing of it but over the last year or so there have been many products that have gone the same way, our favorite ginger tea, our frozen spinach, and recently i have noticed that Select brand legumes have made their way onto the shelves and I cant seem to find the brand of chickpeas we normally buy.
That's four products that one person has noticed I am starting to wonder how many products have been taken off the shelves to make room for Select branded products. Its not like the Select products are better, organic or Australian made generally they are yuckier products made in a country that is cheaper than Australia with questionable farming practices (not that I'm saying all Australian farming is tip top)
But what does one do in the face of such injustice, what can you do, who would listen, this is where I am stumped, will my one voice complaining or shopping elsewhere make any difference and if not then what's the point of doing anything?
Well of course I plan on doing something, I don't know what yet (any ideas would be happily taken on board) but something I will do, amazing what the loss of chickpeas will do !
Ohh by the way, Miss Sparkle turned out to be a very fluffy Maltese, who has a beautiful house in Killcare that was a joy to be at and has me now very excited about the idea of a kitchen that shiny new and easy to clean. I have attached a few photos of out weekend, Andrew caught fish, the kids played on the beach and I got at least 20 pages of my book read in the middle on the day (previously unheard of in my time as a mum). My only criticisms, the mangroves and therefore crabs, and the fact that there was a 1m x1m photos of Miss Sparkle gracing the lounge room wall.
On these family holidays its always a fine line to see who enjoys themselves the most the kids or the dogs?
Hamish being Hamish
Jack being a very tired Jack
It was a beautiful part of the world and the local Deli made a great cup of coffee, i can imagine going back there and visiting Miss Sparkle again ...
Thursday, 6 March 2008
The house looks great on the web (see below) until you see that its called Miss Sparkles Beach House. Not meaning to sound like negative Nora, but the name leaves a lot to be desired. The pictures look great but i am terrified that we will arrive and the bedrooms will be covered in doilies and Laura Ashley.
Ah well apparently the bay is literally across the road and once the lights are off we wont be able to see the lace.